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amherst_xc wrote:you dont ask people on running forums
) with my guy pal. But if your too far off and he doesn't seem to excited about it, he might find giving you a ride home inconvient.
ATribeCalledGreg wrote:Well first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
A good idea to progress the flirting/relationship status is obviously to bring in more of a sexual element. I'm not saying take your clothes off and bend over in front of him, but step your game up a little. As a girl, the best way to probably do this is to just touch his arm or something when you laugh at something he says. Give him hugs if you are comfortable. Play with his hair. Basically, you need physical contact. It's really awkward for me personally to go out with a girl when it feels like when I talk to her, she's standing behind a glass wall.
When you feel ready, just say hey what are you doing this weekend, wanna hang out? Chances are if he's interested at all he'll say yes and you can try to go to the movies/out to eat/something. Obviously it's a good sign if he pays, but it's not the end of the world if he doesn't. Leave hints and make him wonder. Ask him (since you know he's single hopefully) if he likes anyone. Unless he just flat out names another girl, you have a chance. He may say he doesn't like anyone at the moment, but might just be saying that to keep YOU guessing. The fact that you asked him is going to make him wonder, "Hm... I wonder why she cares at all? I wonder if she likes me?".
Hopefully if you will keep going out on these friend dates and he'll make a move eventually. You can definitely help things along though and get hints as to how he feels. You just want to make sure at these friend dates, it's just the two of you. Other people are nice sometimes, but being alone with him will put him in a better mindset and it's just better in general. It's only going to be you two in this relationship, so why shouldn't it be only you two out there? An old but good method to test how he's feeling is sit together and pull the "I'm really cold (shiver shiver)" routine. If he says yeah let's leave, he's either not interested or an idiot. Make sure you give him an inviting look after you say your cold and hopefully he'll take the hint and warm you up.
Wow, I wrote a lot. I am interested in helping however I can though, so updates/more information would be greatly appreciated.
Running With Scissors wrote:Good advice Greg.
and i'm englishthats good advice aswellWell first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering
questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just
being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
Wgrt wrote:as many times as you've heard it, be yourself, i can say stuff which i
would like but you can't generalise guys like that
so what do i know
just have a laugh with him
thats good advice aswellWell first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering
questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just
being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
i think you're the first english person we've had. i think we had an australian once though.Wgrt wrote:as many times as you've heard it, be yourself, i can say stuff which i
would like but you can't generalise guys like that
so what do i know
just have a laugh with him
thats good advice aswellWell first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering
questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just
being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
Wgrt wrote:as many times as you've heard it, be yourself, i can say stuff which i
would like but you can't generalise guys like that
so what do i know
just have a laugh with him
thats good advice aswellWell first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering
questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just
being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
yeahhh try not to talk to him with a group of girls with you if he doesnt have much confidence.if he's a bit nervous around you he might be shy the first time you talk ...definitely don't give up unless you've
talked to him multiple times and he still won't get into a meaningful conversation
you thought right. lagwagon.AudienceOfOne wrote:i think you're the first english person we've had. i think we had an australian once though.Wgrt wrote:as many times as you've heard it, be yourself, i can say stuff which i
would like but you can't generalise guys like that
so what do i know
just have a laugh with him
thats good advice aswellWell first of all, if your conversations consist of him just answering
questions you ask in a non-enthusiastic way, don't bother. He's just
being nice.
If he is smiling when you talk to him, actually making an effort to progress the conversation, continue.
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